At 15 I fell in love with my best friend. Luckily she felt the same way about me. We went to the same school and hung out together all the time. Being raised in a conservative society we weren’t accustomed to hanging outdoors so we would often visit each other at home instead.
When the feelings I had for her dawned to me, I wasn’t ready to accept it. How could I accept myself feeling for someone of the same sex? That was wrong was it not? Or at least that’s what I grew up learning. Every time I allowed those feelings to get the best of me I fell into a pit of regret. All the hateful slurs I encountered on a daily basis on Islamic sites saying things like “they are disgusting” “they are inhumane” “it’s immoral” “it’s not normal” “they must be mentally fucked up” “Allah will burn them in the fire of Jahannam” and the fatwas released calling for the death penalties for them, made me more miserable and reluctant to accept what I was.
I remember our first kiss, it was magical but back then I didn’t allow myself to feel anything except for guilt and regret. I cried myself to sleep the next few nights feeling like I had terribly sinned. I grew up hating myself for being what I am. I prayed more every night in the hope that Allah would forgive me and then cried myself to sleep because I really couldn’t shake my feelings away. I missed her but I was stuck between my religion and my relationship with her. She understood my situation and in spite of my indecisiveness, held on for as long as she could. She knew she loved me and somehow that was enough for her. I wish I had the courage to realize that she was enough for me too. But instead, I put an end to our relationship and started publicly endorsing homophobia in an attempt to shun out the fact that I, myself was part of the LGBT community. I was a lesbian. I advocated against the LGBT community on social media platforms as well twitter, Facebook and Instagram.
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